How to ask for money not gifts at my wedding?
Me and my fiance are headed off to europe for a year and need all the money we can get. Whats a good way to tell our guests not to buy us any presents, and to instead give us money they would have spent on the present. I don’t want to sound needy or anything but the gifts aren’t really going to help us out in any way since were travelling. please help!
Word of mouth is the only *polite* way to do this. Gifts/Money/Cards are nice and should always be appreciated, but should never be mandatory for an event such as a wedding. This is why it is considered improper to use those little registry cards the stores give you, or why you shouldn’t include any cutesy poems asking for money – it seems like you’re saying “We want you to come celebrate our special day with us, but please note the cover charge!”
Usually, if someone can’t find a registry for you and they want to give a gift, they’ll write a check or ask family/bridal party/etc. This is THEIR CHOICE, however, so you shouldn’t be counting on getting anything at your wedding, especially money to fund your trip to Europe. If you can’t afford it now, then don’t plan it, or scale down your plans a bit. Look at it this way – anything you may receive for your wedding is a bonus and you can upgrade!